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Posts Tagged ‘relationships

The three word challenge – up for it?

September 30, 2013

This week’s post offers up a challenge for you. It’s an incredibly simple challenge, yet I wonder how easy you would actually find it to take on. Doubtless, there will be people in your life whom you like. They may, of course be relatives or friends, colleagues, neighbours or even acquaintances. There may be all […]

Understanding

August 12, 2013

A few weeks back I promised a mate I’d watch a TV programme on line that he’d referred me to. I haven’t got round to it yet, as it’s a show that seeks to disprove the value and efficacy of complementary therapies. To be honest, I’m not sure I really want to watch it, given […]

Shocking Phil

June 3, 2013

Just a few days ago I declared to a man called Phil that he was the most important person in my life, at that moment.  He was certainly taken aback!  And, indeed  you may think: “ Goodness me – has Chris taken a liking to a potential new, male life partner and thinking of abandoning Ingrid and […]

The whopper

February 25, 2013

I did something the other day, that I hardly ever do any more – I told a whopper of a lie. I don’t feel good about that. I have found it immensely liberating in recent years to conduct myself in a totally honest way – most of the time. We often hear of studies that […]

A new flag to wave?

January 14, 2013

“Every bullet that is fired, is destined for some mother’s child”  Anon  I greatly enjoyed watching Simon Amstell’s stand up routine “Numb” on the BBC the other day. I was particularly amused and struck by his routine about flag waving. Asking where each of us comes from, he pointed out that we, every one of […]

Influencing skills – oh dear…….

June 11, 2012

There is one particular aspect of modern life that I am certain many of us feel uncomfortable with: The need to go out and influence. The internet is awash with people offering help with influencing, selling, marketing, networking and whatever else you want to call it. In other words – how to engage with people […]

Facets

April 22, 2012

Note: This week’s piece is posted a day early owing to work commitments. Some years ago, I recall running into Dick, a mate of mine. who was on his way home from work, sporting a smart suit and tie. Now, I guess we were in our late 20’s at the time and had knocked around […]

Lo siento

January 9, 2012

Some of you reading this will recognise the title of this week’s post as the Spanish term for “I apologise”. However, the phrase, in its literal form has a subtly different meaning. The words “lo siento” actually translate as “I feel it”. Somehow, to me it comes across as a far more heartfelt and empathic […]

The show goes on, with a little help……

December 19, 2011

I guess it had to happen sooner or later.It’s Monday morning and I feel like death warmed up. In fact, I’ve been pretty much out of commission for several days now. So much so that I simply haven’t had it in me to write a new blog piece this week.  However, rather than leave you, […]

“You make me……”

August 1, 2011

Just for a change, this week’s blog post kicks off with a quiz. All you need to do is identify who originally performed each of the songs listed below. Additionally, can you spot the odd one out? Answers appear at the end of this post. The way you make me feel You make me feel mighty […]

Taking the “con” out of confidence

July 25, 2011

Many people reading this blog post will be aware that the TV series The Apprentice has just come to its conclusion for yet another series here in the UK. A bright-eyed  quirky young inventor called Tom has made it through this bizarre circus to reach the dizzy heights of being  dear Lord Sugar’s new “business […]

Are you mis-using your life saver?

July 4, 2011

A few years ago I was doing some errands in Potters Bar, not far from where I live. I stepped off the pavement on the High Street and hadn’t realised that there was a bus just ten feet away from me.  Unfortunately, it was a bus in motion and it was moving towards me, rather […]

I just called…….

June 13, 2011

When’s the last time you picked up the phone to ring someone and said “I just called to say hi, how are you?”  I don’t know about you, but I love a good natter. Yet, I fear that this is an activity that is becoming increasingly rare.  So, what’s happened? Why do many of us natter […]

Happy

May 30, 2011

I recently picked up what I thought was a lovely idea from a blog I was reading. I am, however, ashamed to say that I can’t recall who’s blog it was otherwise I would include a link.  Anyway, it involves using a simple affirmation that the writer suggested we could utter quietly in our head […]

Crazy? Or crushed spirits?

May 23, 2011

Just over a week ago I gave a talk for a mental health charity in north London. I was asked to talk on the topic of dealing with conflict to a group of about fifty service users. They had come for their regular Friday evening get together to have some food, a cup of tea and […]

I hate to ask……

May 9, 2011

  “Unless you ask, the answer is already no”  Dutch saying  How easy do you find it to ask for what you want? Do you find yourself getting into the “I wonder whether you’d mind awfully….” kind of patter? Perhaps you end up going round the houses in order to get your needs known or, […]

IQ, EQ – but how’s the TQ?

May 3, 2011

I have been going into organisations for over two decades now, whether to run training programmes, conduct coaching or attend meetings to discuss such matters.  I find that I have developed a “nose” for the kind of organisation I’m visiting or working with and, more specifically how toxic it is.  When I say toxic, I […]

Nightmare? What nightmare?

March 28, 2011

 In April of 1940, my mother, who was in her early 20’s at the time, undertook a train journey. The journey was from the Polish city of Lwow (now, Lviv in the Ukraine) to Kazakhstan.  It was not a journey of choice, rather one that was at the behest of the Russian army. My mother, […]

That other four letter “F” word

March 21, 2011

When my son was about three years old, he approached me with a rather interesting question: “Daddy, what is the “F” word, is it flip or is it f**k?” Once I’d recovered from the shock and stifled laughter I, of course had to give him the answer and put his mind at rest. As a […]

How do you compare?

March 14, 2011

I was at a local firework display a few years back. It was dark, of course and I could see very little, given my visual impairment. One of my neighbours’ children wanted a burger, so his dad a big, strong six foot+ police officer scooped up his son and purposefully wended his way to the […]

When you’re smiling……

March 7, 2011

  “When you’re smiling, when you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you” Song lyrics by Mark Fisher / Joe Goodwin / Larry Shay  There’s a lot of truth in those lyrics.The world has an uncanny way of reflecting back what we project.  Just a few days ago, I was pretty grumpy to say the […]

It takes two

February 28, 2011

As a training practitioner and coach I find that I am constantly learning new things myself and I’m sure I will do so for a good many years to come. I learn of course from fellow professionals, from books, the internet and other such sources. However, sometimes a powerful insight can come from a most […]

The world’s most counterproductive acronym?

February 21, 2011

   I was invited to visit a large public sector organisation to discuss some conflict resolution training for their staff. The meeting was to take place in Croydon with the HR director and training manager on a Friday afternoon early in the summer.  The meeting went very well, so much so that I was asked […]

Mirror, mirror on the wall…..

February 14, 2011

What was the first thing you did when you got up this morning? Chances are that it will have involved you going to the bathroom and looking in the mirror.  And what did you see? You may think that the answer to that question were pretty obvious. Perhaps a fairer way of putting it would […]

Oussez

February 7, 2011

Few people will have heard of the relatively obscure Belgian philosopher Pierre Oussez, yet he can provide a significant contribution to improving how we all get on with each other. Before I say more about him I need to explain how his thinking can help most of us. This is probably best illustrated by a […]

Is “you” the problem?

January 31, 2011

Have you ever been poked in the chest? Do you enjoy being poked in the chest? Somehow, I doubt it. Yet, so many of us do it to each other on a regular basis. In fact,  I did it big time to my partner just yesterday morning.  I realise that I have probably confused you, […]

Are you inadvertantly damaging your interactions & relationships with “UVV”?

November 22, 2010

Please read beyond the first paragraph – there’s a gem in here – honest! How many times have you vomited today? Yes, you read right. How many times? It may well have been several, yet you probably will not even have been aware. Now, before you think I have taken leave of my senses or […]