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Posts Tagged ‘interpersonal skills

The missing skill

June 23, 2014

How many of us spent our school days being told to sit up and listen? What if, instead we had been taught to listen? I don’t simply mean nominal written comprehension tests or repeating back by rote what the teacher had said. I mean real, genuine listening in order to fully understand the other person. […]

An unrecognised pleasure

July 2, 2012

A few days ago, Ingrid my partner and I were engaged in a rather heated discussion. It was going nowhere, apart from perhaps downhill. And then…..….. I can’t identify precisely what she said or how she said it but I suddenly understood her point of view. It’s like something clicked and I let go of […]

Influencing skills – oh dear…….

June 11, 2012

There is one particular aspect of modern life that I am certain many of us feel uncomfortable with: The need to go out and influence. The internet is awash with people offering help with influencing, selling, marketing, networking and whatever else you want to call it. In other words – how to engage with people […]

All right

October 31, 2011

How are you today? No, I mean it. How are you? Really? I find it amazing how this enquiry can fall off peoples’ lips scores of times in any day and yet rarely receives a specific or accurate response. It’s as if what should be a genuine, heartfelt enquiry as to someones well-being is so […]

Doing your best? It could spell trouble

August 15, 2011

Checking into a hotel in Dorset the night before a training course I asked the receptionist for an iron and board in order to iron a shirt that evening. Her reply:  “Certainly sir, I’ll do my best”  I went to my room. I showered, I rang my partner at home and prepared to go downstairs […]

“You make me……”

August 1, 2011

Just for a change, this week’s blog post kicks off with a quiz. All you need to do is identify who originally performed each of the songs listed below. Additionally, can you spot the odd one out? Answers appear at the end of this post. The way you make me feel You make me feel mighty […]

Oh no!

May 16, 2011

This week I’m taking you to the flipside.  That is, the flipside of last week’s post. Whilst many of us find it difficult to ask for what we want (as discussed last week), we can also find it equally, if not more challenging to say no.  Too many of us are pleasers. We want to […]

Are you a business Lothario/Lothariette?

January 10, 2011

A few days ago I remembered an email I’d received a couple of months back from an old buddy of mine. I wasn’t reminded of it’s content, more of what he had written at the foot of his note, beneath his name.  “Aspiring to live in a way where everybody’s needs matter.”  I was really […]

Difficult people – no such thing?

December 13, 2010

  “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”  Plato I have been a bit grumpy and feeling sorry for myself over the past week or so. This is mainly because of being laid up with a rather grotty cold and sore throat.  Whilst I have dealt with it reasonably well, my […]

I hear what you say…..

November 29, 2010

In the post that I wrote this time last week, much emphasis was put on the importance and value of good listening and how it contributes to building stronger, richer relationships.  Great listening isn’t necessarily about merely doing the listening, but also very much about showing, even proving to the other person that we really […]

Are you inadvertantly damaging your interactions & relationships with “UVV”?

November 22, 2010

Please read beyond the first paragraph – there’s a gem in here – honest! How many times have you vomited today? Yes, you read right. How many times? It may well have been several, yet you probably will not even have been aware. Now, before you think I have taken leave of my senses or […]

Inspiration, intelligence & the bottom line

November 15, 2010

I received an email response to my last blog from a pal of mine who suggested I include some more on “the inspiration of running such courses”.  I was struck by this and realised it kind of went to the core of things. Why do I do this work for a living? I certainly gave […]