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Posts Tagged ‘Influencing skills

What are you missing out on?

October 8, 2012

“[Pippa] wonders what the new DG would have said had he been allowed to finish a sentence or two.” This slightly cryptic looking sentence was a post written on Facebook a few weeks back by a buddy of mine. She was referring to a radio interview that morning with the new Director General of the […]

Influencing skills – oh dear…….

June 11, 2012

There is one particular aspect of modern life that I am certain many of us feel uncomfortable with: The need to go out and influence. The internet is awash with people offering help with influencing, selling, marketing, networking and whatever else you want to call it. In other words – how to engage with people […]

Open for business?

November 21, 2011

   The other evening I was noodling around on my PC and popped into Twitter for the first time in weeks. I came across a link to a blog written by a guy in the States called Scott Ginsberg. I lazily started half reading the post and then a paragraph jumped out at me:  And […]

Assertive? Aggressive?

September 26, 2011

One of the most common questions I am asked on courses is:  “What is the difference between assertive and aggressive behaviour?” Although the majority of people who come on assertiveness courses tend  towards the passive/submissive end of the scale, occasionally someone will turn up (usually sent by their manager) because they are too aggressive. Almost […]

Taking the “con” out of confidence

July 25, 2011

Many people reading this blog post will be aware that the TV series The Apprentice has just come to its conclusion for yet another series here in the UK. A bright-eyed  quirky young inventor called Tom has made it through this bizarre circus to reach the dizzy heights of being  dear Lord Sugar’s new “business […]

Oh no!

May 16, 2011

This week I’m taking you to the flipside.  That is, the flipside of last week’s post. Whilst many of us find it difficult to ask for what we want (as discussed last week), we can also find it equally, if not more challenging to say no.  Too many of us are pleasers. We want to […]

I hate to ask……

May 9, 2011

  “Unless you ask, the answer is already no”  Dutch saying  How easy do you find it to ask for what you want? Do you find yourself getting into the “I wonder whether you’d mind awfully….” kind of patter? Perhaps you end up going round the houses in order to get your needs known or, […]

When you’re smiling……

March 7, 2011

  “When you’re smiling, when you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you” Song lyrics by Mark Fisher / Joe Goodwin / Larry Shay  There’s a lot of truth in those lyrics.The world has an uncanny way of reflecting back what we project.  Just a few days ago, I was pretty grumpy to say the […]

The world’s most counterproductive acronym?

February 21, 2011

   I was invited to visit a large public sector organisation to discuss some conflict resolution training for their staff. The meeting was to take place in Croydon with the HR director and training manager on a Friday afternoon early in the summer.  The meeting went very well, so much so that I was asked […]

Mirror, mirror on the wall…..

February 14, 2011

What was the first thing you did when you got up this morning? Chances are that it will have involved you going to the bathroom and looking in the mirror.  And what did you see? You may think that the answer to that question were pretty obvious. Perhaps a fairer way of putting it would […]

Are you a business Lothario/Lothariette?

January 10, 2011

A few days ago I remembered an email I’d received a couple of months back from an old buddy of mine. I wasn’t reminded of it’s content, more of what he had written at the foot of his note, beneath his name.  “Aspiring to live in a way where everybody’s needs matter.”  I was really […]