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Posts Tagged ‘conflict resolution

Ten words for a better world?

November 30, 2015

There’s an awful lot of upset in the world at the moment. Our media and leaders seem intent on sending messages that can strike fear in our hearts, stifle our spirit. The assumption is that the only way forward must be to fight. As my way of handling this, I list a number of words […]

Flowers in the Jungle

October 26, 2015

This week’s blog post is a little different, as I’m handing it over to a guest blogger – Clara Markiewicz, my eighteen year old daughter. She wrote this piece a couple of weeks ago, following her first visit to the Jungle refugee camp in Calais, Northern France. I’ve been trying to write this post for […]

What, no rows?

January 26, 2015

A couple I know claimed that they never ever rowed. I found this very difficult to believe, assuming that all couples row from time to time and that it’s all part and parcel of a healthy relationship. They’d known each other since they were fifteen –  childhood sweethearts. They stayed together “till death do us […]

Violence

January 27, 2014

I’ve always considered myself to be a peace loving, non-violent kind of person. Admittedly, I fall short of being all hippy about it, but I’m certainly not the type to throw my weight around or get into fights. In fact, I don’t recall ever actually having been in a physical fight – even in my […]

Understanding

August 12, 2013

A few weeks back I promised a mate I’d watch a TV programme on line that he’d referred me to. I haven’t got round to it yet, as it’s a show that seeks to disprove the value and efficacy of complementary therapies. To be honest, I’m not sure I really want to watch it, given […]

True

July 1, 2013

“We all interpreted the past how we thought it was. And we were truthful about that and honest” These were the words of Gary Kemp of Spandau Ballet during an interview with him and his bandmate Tony Hadley on the radio last week. He was referring to the massive split the group had suffered caused […]

Easter message: “I don’t care”

April 1, 2013

Recently I watched a fascinating episode of the excellent Storyville documentary series on the BBC. This particular edition was about the Anonymous movement which has arisen in recent years. I found the programme fascinating, inspiring, sinister and scary in pretty much equal measure. However, I want to focus on just the very last few seconds […]

A new flag to wave?

January 14, 2013

“Every bullet that is fired, is destined for some mother’s child”  Anon  I greatly enjoyed watching Simon Amstell’s stand up routine “Numb” on the BBC the other day. I was particularly amused and struck by his routine about flag waving. Asking where each of us comes from, he pointed out that we, every one of […]

The trouble with “win/win”

December 3, 2012

Just about every negotiation course and book nowadays talks about the importance of achieving “win/win” outcomes. On the face of it, this is laudable and desirable – both parties in the discussion get what they want. Both parties are happy. Both win. Yet, I would suggest that “win/win” outcomes only go so far. I’d even […]

An unrecognised pleasure

July 2, 2012

A few days ago, Ingrid my partner and I were engaged in a rather heated discussion. It was going nowhere, apart from perhaps downhill. And then…..….. I can’t identify precisely what she said or how she said it but I suddenly understood her point of view. It’s like something clicked and I let go of […]

High performance – its a matter of lubrication

August 22, 2011

We replaced our car a few weeks ago. The venerable old Mercedes had served us well for almost  twelve years, but the time had come to trade it in for something newer and more economical. We  made sure that our “new” car came supplied with evidence of regular servicing – reassurance that it had been cared […]

Doing your best? It could spell trouble

August 15, 2011

Checking into a hotel in Dorset the night before a training course I asked the receptionist for an iron and board in order to iron a shirt that evening. Her reply:  “Certainly sir, I’ll do my best”  I went to my room. I showered, I rang my partner at home and prepared to go downstairs […]

“You make me……”

August 1, 2011

Just for a change, this week’s blog post kicks off with a quiz. All you need to do is identify who originally performed each of the songs listed below. Additionally, can you spot the odd one out? Answers appear at the end of this post. The way you make me feel You make me feel mighty […]

Are you mis-using your life saver?

July 4, 2011

A few years ago I was doing some errands in Potters Bar, not far from where I live. I stepped off the pavement on the High Street and hadn’t realised that there was a bus just ten feet away from me.  Unfortunately, it was a bus in motion and it was moving towards me, rather […]

Happy

May 30, 2011

I recently picked up what I thought was a lovely idea from a blog I was reading. I am, however, ashamed to say that I can’t recall who’s blog it was otherwise I would include a link.  Anyway, it involves using a simple affirmation that the writer suggested we could utter quietly in our head […]

When you’re smiling……

March 7, 2011

  “When you’re smiling, when you’re smiling, the whole world smiles with you” Song lyrics by Mark Fisher / Joe Goodwin / Larry Shay  There’s a lot of truth in those lyrics.The world has an uncanny way of reflecting back what we project.  Just a few days ago, I was pretty grumpy to say the […]

It takes two

February 28, 2011

As a training practitioner and coach I find that I am constantly learning new things myself and I’m sure I will do so for a good many years to come. I learn of course from fellow professionals, from books, the internet and other such sources. However, sometimes a powerful insight can come from a most […]

Oussez

February 7, 2011

Few people will have heard of the relatively obscure Belgian philosopher Pierre Oussez, yet he can provide a significant contribution to improving how we all get on with each other. Before I say more about him I need to explain how his thinking can help most of us. This is probably best illustrated by a […]

Difficult people – no such thing?

December 13, 2010

  “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”  Plato I have been a bit grumpy and feeling sorry for myself over the past week or so. This is mainly because of being laid up with a rather grotty cold and sore throat.  Whilst I have dealt with it reasonably well, my […]

I hear what you say…..

November 29, 2010

In the post that I wrote this time last week, much emphasis was put on the importance and value of good listening and how it contributes to building stronger, richer relationships.  Great listening isn’t necessarily about merely doing the listening, but also very much about showing, even proving to the other person that we really […]

Are you inadvertantly damaging your interactions & relationships with “UVV”?

November 22, 2010

Please read beyond the first paragraph – there’s a gem in here – honest! How many times have you vomited today? Yes, you read right. How many times? It may well have been several, yet you probably will not even have been aware. Now, before you think I have taken leave of my senses or […]