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Posts Tagged ‘Communication

Accurracy or understanding?

September 7, 2015

I wonder how you have reacted (if at all) to the spelling error in the title of this post. Perhaps you let it go, thinking it a symptom of a bleary eyed Chris knocking out yet another post early on a Monday morning. On the other hand, you may be appalled. This is one I […]

Are you sticking your ‘or’ in?

January 12, 2015

Or – It’s an innocent little word, on the face of it….. Yesterday, my son was about to start vacuuming our living room. I was concerned that the dustbag might be full so asked him “Shall we check the bag or do you think it’s all right”? Given he just wanted to get on with […]

Pardon? Yer what? Que?

February 4, 2013

Having worked in and around the corporate world for the vast majority of my adult life, you’d think I’d be speaking the language of “corporate-speak” fluently by now. Yet, all through my time either working full time within a major organisation or training and coaching  their people during my freelance career I’ve felt very much […]

An unrecognised pleasure

July 2, 2012

A few days ago, Ingrid my partner and I were engaged in a rather heated discussion. It was going nowhere, apart from perhaps downhill. And then…..….. I can’t identify precisely what she said or how she said it but I suddenly understood her point of view. It’s like something clicked and I let go of […]

The last time I saw Norman

March 5, 2012

The last time I saw Norman was about five or six weeks ago. The two of us were stood talking at the gate to his house just diagonally across from mine. I paid Norman some compliment or other – to be honest I can’t quite remember what it was. I do recall his response though: […]

Melly in an alley

December 5, 2011

George Melly, the jazz musician died a couple of years ago. I can’t say that I’m that familiar with his music, although one claim to fame is that his former drummer lives next door to me.  I once heard a great story about Mr Melly. He was doing a gig up in Manchester. There happened […]

Assertive? Aggressive?

September 26, 2011

One of the most common questions I am asked on courses is:  “What is the difference between assertive and aggressive behaviour?” Although the majority of people who come on assertiveness courses tend  towards the passive/submissive end of the scale, occasionally someone will turn up (usually sent by their manager) because they are too aggressive. Almost […]

Doing your best? It could spell trouble

August 15, 2011

Checking into a hotel in Dorset the night before a training course I asked the receptionist for an iron and board in order to iron a shirt that evening. Her reply:  “Certainly sir, I’ll do my best”  I went to my room. I showered, I rang my partner at home and prepared to go downstairs […]

Talk to strangers? I should be so lucky

August 8, 2011

  “There are no such things as strangers, only friends we haven’t met yet”  Anon  I have recently found myself talking to strangers.  As a youngster I was always told not to do so, that it was potentially dangerous and could lead to awful outcomes. Wise advice for a child to heed. The main catalyst […]

Are you mis-using your life saver?

July 4, 2011

A few years ago I was doing some errands in Potters Bar, not far from where I live. I stepped off the pavement on the High Street and hadn’t realised that there was a bus just ten feet away from me.  Unfortunately, it was a bus in motion and it was moving towards me, rather […]

I just called…….

June 13, 2011

When’s the last time you picked up the phone to ring someone and said “I just called to say hi, how are you?”  I don’t know about you, but I love a good natter. Yet, I fear that this is an activity that is becoming increasingly rare.  So, what’s happened? Why do many of us natter […]

I hate to ask……

May 9, 2011

  “Unless you ask, the answer is already no”  Dutch saying  How easy do you find it to ask for what you want? Do you find yourself getting into the “I wonder whether you’d mind awfully….” kind of patter? Perhaps you end up going round the houses in order to get your needs known or, […]

Nightmare? What nightmare?

March 28, 2011

 In April of 1940, my mother, who was in her early 20’s at the time, undertook a train journey. The journey was from the Polish city of Lwow (now, Lviv in the Ukraine) to Kazakhstan.  It was not a journey of choice, rather one that was at the behest of the Russian army. My mother, […]

The world’s most counterproductive acronym?

February 21, 2011

   I was invited to visit a large public sector organisation to discuss some conflict resolution training for their staff. The meeting was to take place in Croydon with the HR director and training manager on a Friday afternoon early in the summer.  The meeting went very well, so much so that I was asked […]

Mirror, mirror on the wall…..

February 14, 2011

What was the first thing you did when you got up this morning? Chances are that it will have involved you going to the bathroom and looking in the mirror.  And what did you see? You may think that the answer to that question were pretty obvious. Perhaps a fairer way of putting it would […]

Difficult people – no such thing?

December 13, 2010

  “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”  Plato I have been a bit grumpy and feeling sorry for myself over the past week or so. This is mainly because of being laid up with a rather grotty cold and sore throat.  Whilst I have dealt with it reasonably well, my […]