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Posts Tagged ‘Behaviours

Mr Angry and the French lemon

October 29, 2012

It’s been one thing after another with our car. The latest occurred last week when the rear screen was smashed at around tea time on Monday evening. On looking at the car the police thought the damage was more than just a broken window as part of the tailgate had sprung up – making it […]

What are you missing out on?

October 8, 2012

“[Pippa] wonders what the new DG would have said had he been allowed to finish a sentence or two.” This slightly cryptic looking sentence was a post written on Facebook a few weeks back by a buddy of mine. She was referring to a radio interview that morning with the new Director General of the […]

Love me or hate me……

July 23, 2012

Imagine you are in a room and you ask someone a question or make a request of them. Imagine they then just turn their back on you and simply ignore you. Without a doubt you would feel mightily offended. Yet, increasingly it seems that people are being ignored when we communicate in writing. Now, this […]

A hat, 10,000 phones and a camel

May 28, 2012

A few months ago, I left my hat on an underground train as I alighted at Euston. I gave it up as lost and assumed I’d never see it again. However, I decided to report it to lost property anyway, just in case. About ten days later I was thrilled to  receive an email to […]

Laughed out loud

February 6, 2012

A couple of weeks back I fulfilled a long standing ambition. It was an unusual ambition, quirky even, but one that was quite significant to me. I succeeded in getting three people in a room together – they had never before occupied the same space at the same time Those three people were Ingrid, my […]

Pulled up short

November 28, 2011

Last Thursday I went to a workshop at the British Film Institute with my thirteen year old son, Adam. There were about fifteen youngsters there ranging in age from about to ten to seventeen or so.  It was clear that a handful of the participants were not just enthusiastic about the topic but also incredibly […]

Assertive? Aggressive?

September 26, 2011

One of the most common questions I am asked on courses is:  “What is the difference between assertive and aggressive behaviour?” Although the majority of people who come on assertiveness courses tend  towards the passive/submissive end of the scale, occasionally someone will turn up (usually sent by their manager) because they are too aggressive. Almost […]

Go for it – or cry?

September 19, 2011

A while ago, I visited the Imperial War Museum with my son, Adam. I must admit, it wasn’t my first choice of place to visit as I’ve never been much of a military type myself. However, one exhibition there did strike a strong chord. It featured second world war child evacuees. These were children in […]

High performance – its a matter of lubrication

August 22, 2011

We replaced our car a few weeks ago. The venerable old Mercedes had served us well for almost  twelve years, but the time had come to trade it in for something newer and more economical. We  made sure that our “new” car came supplied with evidence of regular servicing – reassurance that it had been cared […]

“You make me……”

August 1, 2011

Just for a change, this week’s blog post kicks off with a quiz. All you need to do is identify who originally performed each of the songs listed below. Additionally, can you spot the odd one out? Answers appear at the end of this post. The way you make me feel You make me feel mighty […]

Taking the “con” out of confidence

July 25, 2011

Many people reading this blog post will be aware that the TV series The Apprentice has just come to its conclusion for yet another series here in the UK. A bright-eyed  quirky young inventor called Tom has made it through this bizarre circus to reach the dizzy heights of being  dear Lord Sugar’s new “business […]

Are you mis-using your life saver?

July 4, 2011

A few years ago I was doing some errands in Potters Bar, not far from where I live. I stepped off the pavement on the High Street and hadn’t realised that there was a bus just ten feet away from me.  Unfortunately, it was a bus in motion and it was moving towards me, rather […]

A head full of urgents?

June 20, 2011

Do you ever feel as though you have a head packed full of “urgents”?  Too many pressing things that you need to get done – whether at work or on the home front?  This issue is one that comes up time and again on my courses, as people try to find ways of releasing the […]

IQ, EQ – but how’s the TQ?

May 3, 2011

I have been going into organisations for over two decades now, whether to run training programmes, conduct coaching or attend meetings to discuss such matters.  I find that I have developed a “nose” for the kind of organisation I’m visiting or working with and, more specifically how toxic it is.  When I say toxic, I […]

Workplace bullying. Is it really a problem?

April 18, 2011

A few weeks ago we had an addition to our household in the form of Murphy, a collie/labrador cross puppy. Like most puppies, he is full of life and, frankly at times quite a handful but, of course we all love him big time.  Yet, there have been occasions where he has “misbehaved” and I […]

What’s done is done

April 4, 2011

“A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.” John Barrymore  Quite often, when writing these blogs, I realise they are as much for me to read and take on as for other people. This is definitely one of those!  How much of your time do you spend looking forward? How much […]

Nightmare? What nightmare?

March 28, 2011

 In April of 1940, my mother, who was in her early 20’s at the time, undertook a train journey. The journey was from the Polish city of Lwow (now, Lviv in the Ukraine) to Kazakhstan.  It was not a journey of choice, rather one that was at the behest of the Russian army. My mother, […]

That other four letter “F” word

March 21, 2011

When my son was about three years old, he approached me with a rather interesting question: “Daddy, what is the “F” word, is it flip or is it f**k?” Once I’d recovered from the shock and stifled laughter I, of course had to give him the answer and put his mind at rest. As a […]

Oussez

February 7, 2011

Few people will have heard of the relatively obscure Belgian philosopher Pierre Oussez, yet he can provide a significant contribution to improving how we all get on with each other. Before I say more about him I need to explain how his thinking can help most of us. This is probably best illustrated by a […]

Difficult people – no such thing?

December 13, 2010

  “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”  Plato I have been a bit grumpy and feeling sorry for myself over the past week or so. This is mainly because of being laid up with a rather grotty cold and sore throat.  Whilst I have dealt with it reasonably well, my […]

I hear what you say…..

November 29, 2010

In the post that I wrote this time last week, much emphasis was put on the importance and value of good listening and how it contributes to building stronger, richer relationships.  Great listening isn’t necessarily about merely doing the listening, but also very much about showing, even proving to the other person that we really […]