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Posts Tagged ‘Assertiveness

Are you sticking your ‘or’ in?

January 12, 2015

Or – It’s an innocent little word, on the face of it….. Yesterday, my son was about to start vacuuming our living room. I was concerned that the dustbag might be full so asked him “Shall we check the bag or do you think it’s all right”? Given he just wanted to get on with […]

To know or not to know?

November 17, 2014

The girl on the Personal Impact course I was running asked me “What if I don’t know the answer when a colleague or customer asks me something?” Afraid that her credibility would be blown, she was worried that not having the answer to something would stand against her. However, there are likely to be times […]

Influencing skills – oh dear…….

June 11, 2012

There is one particular aspect of modern life that I am certain many of us feel uncomfortable with: The need to go out and influence. The internet is awash with people offering help with influencing, selling, marketing, networking and whatever else you want to call it. In other words – how to engage with people […]

Give and get

March 26, 2012

Are you a person who tends to give as good as they get? Last week, as I was about to kick off a training course, three of the delegates arrived looking rather unenthusiastic to say the least. The three men sat down together – body language clearly indicating that they most definitely did not want […]

A boardroom full of dentists

January 16, 2012

Some years back, I was invited to run some negotiation skills training for the remuneration committee of the British Dental Association (BDA). Now, like many people, the word dentist has somewhat negative associations for me. I still shudder to this day recalling Mr Kocins, my childhood dentist glaring down at me as I sat, quaking […]

Assertive? Aggressive?

September 26, 2011

One of the most common questions I am asked on courses is:  “What is the difference between assertive and aggressive behaviour?” Although the majority of people who come on assertiveness courses tend  towards the passive/submissive end of the scale, occasionally someone will turn up (usually sent by their manager) because they are too aggressive. Almost […]

I hate to ask……

May 9, 2011

  “Unless you ask, the answer is already no”  Dutch saying  How easy do you find it to ask for what you want? Do you find yourself getting into the “I wonder whether you’d mind awfully….” kind of patter? Perhaps you end up going round the houses in order to get your needs known or, […]