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Archive for the ‘Self Awareness’ Category

Oh dear, what a boo boo!

November 16, 2015

I was having a bad day, several things had gone wrong, I’d had a spat with my partner and was in no mood for more aggro. Then came the email. Sent to me from a large training company I was doing a lot of work for, the email queried why I’d sent only four of […]

What’s with the hands?

November 2, 2015

There I am, settling down one evening last week to watch a bit of TV on my computer. Searching through the BBC iplayer, I came across what looked like an interesting programme. I think it was called “Building Cars Live” and featured a visit to the Mini car plant in Cowley. The main presenter was […]

Whatever happened to “good enough”?

April 13, 2015

I ran a one day course the other day for a new client. The course went well, yet I came away feeling slightly disappointed in myself. I knew it wasn’t quite up to my usual standard. On my arrival home, I took a look at the feedback forms, every one of which gave very high […]

If only?

February 16, 2015

Many readers of this blog are likely to be car drivers. I’m not, as I tend to hit things. However, having been a driver for quite some years before my eyesight became too poor, I still have a pretty good grip on the fundamentals. One of these is about use of the rear view mirror. […]

What, no rows?

January 26, 2015

A couple I know claimed that they never ever rowed. I found this very difficult to believe, assuming that all couples row from time to time and that it’s all part and parcel of a healthy relationship. They’d known each other since they were fifteen –  childhood sweethearts. They stayed together “till death do us […]

That certain sneer

December 15, 2014

It’s a little over twenty four years since I left my last full time job. I left just in the nick of time. Very soon after I moved on, the company I’d been working for introduced new technology with a view to there being “a PC on every desk”. I know that I would have found […]

To know or not to know?

November 17, 2014

The girl on the Personal Impact course I was running asked me “What if I don’t know the answer when a colleague or customer asks me something?” Afraid that her credibility would be blown, she was worried that not having the answer to something would stand against her. However, there are likely to be times […]

Confessions of a swinger

October 20, 2014

I’m a swinger. There it is, I’ve finally come out and said it. I’ve been a swinger for most of my adult life. Living in the great metropolis of London has probably provided the most fertile territory for my swinging, although I’m certain there there are also swingers doing their thing across the nation in […]

Purpose schmurpose?

October 6, 2014

The first part of this week’s post doesn’t emanate from my own keyboard, but from that of one Jamie Catto, a  Facebook buddy of mine. The following is a post he put on the social media site a few weeks ago. I have reproduced it verbatim, although the paragraph breaks are mine for ease of reading: […]

Hypocrites all?

June 30, 2014

It was interesting to hear the singer Lily Allen interviewed on the radio this weekend. I’m not that familiar with her work, beyond one or two of her big hits, but really warmed to her as she spoke about her life and views on life. She came over as someone who was both gracious and […]

A perverse arrogance

April 28, 2014

Do you like you? You may be thinking, what an odd way to open a blog post. It sounds like nonsense – on one level. Yet, if we step back and seriously ask that question about our relationship with ourselves, it can be quite an eye opener. “Do I like me?”. There is a belief […]

Politeness is all well and good……

March 24, 2014

“Say please, say thank you” – this is the mantra of many a parent during their youngsters’ formative years. They are the two base words for being polite. They are good words, and perfectly appropriate in all manner of situations. They embody good manners. Yet, I happen to have quite an issue with the notion […]

Parking, delayed trains and an infamous French convict

March 3, 2014

Do you happen to know one of these people who seems to have the luck of the devil when it comes to parking spaces? Perhaps you’re one of those people? The one who always manages to secure a slot, virtually with no effort? I’ve come across quite a number of folk with this knack and heard […]


January 27, 2014

I’ve always considered myself to be a peace loving, non-violent kind of person. Admittedly, I fall short of being all hippy about it, but I’m certainly not the type to throw my weight around or get into fights. In fact, I don’t recall ever actually having been in a physical fight – even in my […]

Stop, Start, Continue

January 6, 2014

You may be reading this today, on the first working Monday of the new year, having set some resolutions for 2014. Such resolutions usually involve either stopping something we’re doing or starting something new. For instance you may have resolved to stop eating three big pies a day and to start going to the gym […]

In defence of thin skin

December 16, 2013

Whilst participating in an online  discussion recently, I found myself needing to tell someone that I was not happy about a personal comment he’d sent my way. He responded by saying that I shouldn’t have such a thin skin. I thought he may well have been right, given that I do at times fall a […]

Upward and onward?

November 25, 2013

The young sixth form student took to the stage to give a speech at the school open evening for prospective new joiners and their parents. She was to speak about her experience of being at the school. She was eloquent, articulate and well spoken. Her talk received hearty applause – clearly “hitting the spot” with […]

Oh yeah?

August 19, 2013

“I wish I were as cool and awesome as I appear to be on Facebook” I saw that ditty on Facebook recently and can certainly relate to it at times! For better or for worse, I’m quite an avid user of the infamous social networking site. When I started using it a few years ago, […]

So, why am I not blind?

July 8, 2013

I can recall that day 32 years ago almost as if it were yesterday. I remember the consultant at Moorfields Eye Hospital uttering words like incurable, disease and blind as he told me of my diagnosis of retinitis pigmentosa (RP). He made no bones about it, there was every likelihood I would lose all my sight in […]

Broken windows

March 18, 2013

I have. for many years been a great admirer of the work of Dr Marshall Rosenberg who, several decades ago, devised a new model for communication called “Non Violent Communication” (NVC). I particularly loved a story he told on one of his workshops that I attended. He had been invited into a high school somewhere […]

Mr Angry and the French lemon

October 29, 2012

It’s been one thing after another with our car. The latest occurred last week when the rear screen was smashed at around tea time on Monday evening. On looking at the car the police thought the damage was more than just a broken window as part of the tailgate had sprung up – making it […]

What are you missing out on?

October 8, 2012

“[Pippa] wonders what the new DG would have said had he been allowed to finish a sentence or two.” This slightly cryptic looking sentence was a post written on Facebook a few weeks back by a buddy of mine. She was referring to a radio interview that morning with the new Director General of the […]

Man behaving badly

September 9, 2012

Two days ago I was running one of a series of performance management days for a major public sector body. This is a mandatory programme, devised to introduce a new system to staff throughout the organization. Going round the room each participant introduced themselves and had opportunity to say how they felt about being there. […]

Feeling good? That’s a start……

April 9, 2012

“Feeling good was good enough for me, good enough for me and Bobby McGee”  (Words from the song, Me and Bobby McGee by Kris Kristofferson & Fred Foster.) Given the fact that  this week’s blog post comes out on Easter Monday, I guess it’s only right to wish you and yours a Happy Easter. So, […]

Scratching my head

April 2, 2012

I’ve just returned from my walk with the dog, my face a-prickle from the early morning  cold, and am now poised to write this week’s piece. However at least half of my walk was tainted by a nagging question: “what do I write about in my blog this week?” That question has had me scratching […]

My dream of success – you may be surprised

March 12, 2012

A few weeks ago I had a dream about this blog. So, what happened in this dream? Simple really. I had logged on to my stats page, which shows me how many people look at my blog on any given day. What I saw on the screen in front of me came as shock. There […]


January 29, 2012

This Sunday morning as I write this, I’m actually in a bad mood, pissed off or however else you may wish to put it. Part of the reason actually stems from feedback that I get to these blogs. Now, you may think that I must be referring to negative feedback. Actually I’m not. I have […]

Melly in an alley

December 5, 2011

George Melly, the jazz musician died a couple of years ago. I can’t say that I’m that familiar with his music, although one claim to fame is that his former drummer lives next door to me.  I once heard a great story about Mr Melly. He was doing a gig up in Manchester. There happened […]

Pulled up short

November 28, 2011

Last Thursday I went to a workshop at the British Film Institute with my thirteen year old son, Adam. There were about fifteen youngsters there ranging in age from about to ten to seventeen or so.  It was clear that a handful of the participants were not just enthusiastic about the topic but also incredibly […]

The wisdom of Gareth

October 24, 2011

I am the parent of two teenage children. They’re great kids, but of course I’m biased. Like most parents I wonder about their future, how they’ll make their way through life especially given the increasingly uncertain nature of the world we occupy. I wonder how things will be when they’re in their 20’s, 30’s, 40’s […]

Go for it – or cry?

September 19, 2011

A while ago, I visited the Imperial War Museum with my son, Adam. I must admit, it wasn’t my first choice of place to visit as I’ve never been much of a military type myself. However, one exhibition there did strike a strong chord. It featured second world war child evacuees. These were children in […]

“You make me……”

August 1, 2011

Just for a change, this week’s blog post kicks off with a quiz. All you need to do is identify who originally performed each of the songs listed below. Additionally, can you spot the odd one out? Answers appear at the end of this post. The way you make me feel You make me feel mighty […]

Taking the “con” out of confidence

July 25, 2011

Many people reading this blog post will be aware that the TV series The Apprentice has just come to its conclusion for yet another series here in the UK. A bright-eyed  quirky young inventor called Tom has made it through this bizarre circus to reach the dizzy heights of being  dear Lord Sugar’s new “business […]

Are you mis-using your life saver?

July 4, 2011

A few years ago I was doing some errands in Potters Bar, not far from where I live. I stepped off the pavement on the High Street and hadn’t realised that there was a bus just ten feet away from me.  Unfortunately, it was a bus in motion and it was moving towards me, rather […]

What’s done is done

April 4, 2011

“A man is not old until regrets take the place of dreams.” John Barrymore  Quite often, when writing these blogs, I realise they are as much for me to read and take on as for other people. This is definitely one of those!  How much of your time do you spend looking forward? How much […]

Nightmare? What nightmare?

March 28, 2011

 In April of 1940, my mother, who was in her early 20’s at the time, undertook a train journey. The journey was from the Polish city of Lwow (now, Lviv in the Ukraine) to Kazakhstan.  It was not a journey of choice, rather one that was at the behest of the Russian army. My mother, […]

That other four letter “F” word

March 21, 2011

When my son was about three years old, he approached me with a rather interesting question: “Daddy, what is the “F” word, is it flip or is it f**k?” Once I’d recovered from the shock and stifled laughter I, of course had to give him the answer and put his mind at rest. As a […]