Happy

I recently picked up what I thought was a lovely idea from a blog I was reading. I am, however, ashamed to say that I can’t recall who’s blog it was otherwise I would include a link.  Anyway, it involves using a simple affirmation that the writer suggested we could utter quietly in our head […]

Crazy? Or crushed spirits?

Just over a week ago I gave a talk for a mental health charity in north London. I was asked to talk on the topic of dealing with conflict to a group of about fifty service users. They had come for their regular Friday evening get together to have some food, a cup of tea and […]

Oh no!

This week I’m taking you to the flipside.  That is, the flipside of last week’s post. Whilst many of us find it difficult to ask for what we want (as discussed last week), we can also find it equally, if not more challenging to say no.  Too many of us are pleasers. We want to […]

I hate to ask……

  “Unless you ask, the answer is already no”  Dutch saying  How easy do you find it to ask for what you want? Do you find yourself getting into the “I wonder whether you’d mind awfully….” kind of patter? Perhaps you end up going round the houses in order to get your needs known or, […]

IQ, EQ – but how’s the TQ?

I have been going into organisations for over two decades now, whether to run training programmes, conduct coaching or attend meetings to discuss such matters.  I find that I have developed a “nose” for the kind of organisation I’m visiting or working with and, more specifically how toxic it is.  When I say toxic, I […]